I was able to attend a conference last weekend, Bloggy Boot Camp Dallas, hosted by The SITS Girls. They are a community of bloggers who truly support each other and want each other to succeed. Incredible women to meet and know <3
In the short time that I’ve been a member of the event planning community, I’ve found that isn’t always the case. The positives absolutely outweigh the negatives, but I firmly believe that if there were no challenges or competition, we wouldn’t be pushed to be our best.
I was blessed to be able to meet a lot of the positive women this weekend…Fawn of the Happy Wives Club, Christy of A Woman the World Deserves, Dottie of The Flirt Doctor, Jennifer of BellaGrey Designs and Amy of Living Locurto only begin the list of amazing bloggers that I met…every person there, from the guests to the hosts to the sponsors, was just phenomenally warm and welcoming.
Please don’t think I’m “name dropping” because that certainly isn’t the case. I mention them because I’d heard of them as leaders in the industry and when I found out they were there, I had the biggest groupie moments ever and I was afraid to even speak to them because I felt like I wasn’t good enough to even be in the same room.
But the strangest thing happened…I spoke to them and they spoke back.
They encouraged me and we established relationships. They gave me the confidence to truly be who I am and to keep pushing in my business.
They were real people…there to learn, to meet other people in the industry, and to be a source of encouragement to everyone. It was refreshing and unexpected, considering other experiences that I’ve had since beginning this journey.
During the last day of the conference, I was tweeting and Instagramming a lot of this things being shared at the conference to encourage us. It triggered a memory that I’d had while getting ready for work one morning. I’d been reflecting about all of the things that I’ve been through…the emotional rollercoaster of thinking that I’m not good enough or that I’m not doing as well as other planners (who’ve been doing this longer than me and have more time to devote to their work) or that I will never be able to make this into something bigger.
I dealt with emotions of anger, jealousy, despair and regret…and then the thought hit me!
If I’m jealous of other people, I’m pretty much telling God and myself that He can’t bless me in my own right. I’m telling God that He didn’t make me unique enough to do what He designed me to do and that my success is dependent upon other people’s opinion of me and my capabilities…and that I’m living for them.
Big mistake, BIG…HUGE!
There is absolutely no reason for me to be jealous of anyone! That’s is allowing people who don’t care about me and don’t want to see me succeed to occupy incredibly valuable time and space in my life.
Sorry, that lady still cracks me up…
But seriously, there is no reason to be jealous of another’s success. A lot of people want what someone else has, not realizing what they had to sacrifice, lose, or have taken from them to get there. You never truly know who a person is or what they had to go through to get to where they are.
Honestly, some of the people that I found myself being jealous of…I don’t want what they have and I surely don’t want to be who they are to get it either.
Just keepin’ it real, son!
So all of that to say this: be thankful for who you are and what you have. There is no reason to tear another person down because you don’t have what they have or you aren’t where you’d like to be. Work harder and earn it…for yourself. If you’re a Christian, remember who you’re working for in the first place. If you’re not a Christian, just be a good person, m’kay?
I made a printable to share with you. You may not need it (I sure need to be reminded some days) but just in case you do, enjoy!